Dear Marisa,
15 years ago I fell in love with a man who was in a relationship with someone else. At the time my feelings were not reciprocated. Three weeks ago this former friend moved to the Range and he is now divorced. I, on the other hand, have been happily married for 14 years but I am shocked at the feelings that have been re-ignited for this man. This is worrying me so much that I really must get it off my chest. Who should I talk to about this?
Sue, Witta
Dear Sue,
Because your feelings were not reciprocated you never really got closure or the opportunity to process your feelings in a helpful way. This man’s presence has evoked the memory and the old feelings that have been locked up in your subconscious mind. You sound like a lovely person with a great depth of emotion and you have been blessed with a happy and successful marriage for the last 14 years. I would suggest that you begin some narrative therapy, writing down your thoughts and feelings as they surface. Let your writing be about all aspects of your life not just this issue or you may build up an imbalance of feeling, focus and thought. As you write, and give yourself the opportunity for self expression, your mind will feel relief and your connection to your own inner guidance will be strengthened. Practice some relaxation therapy to disperse the intensity of your nervous energy, and if you feel that it would be helpful you can also make an appointment to debrief with a counsellor of your choice.
Love Marisa … Naturally
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Marisa Kliese is an experienced counsellor and naturopath. Marisa Naturally Ph: 5494 2627
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